Best Possible Self
Time Required
15 minutes per day for two weeks
How to Do It
Take a moment to imagine your life in the future. What is the best possible life you can imagine? Consider all of the relevant areas of your life, such as your career, academic work, relationships, hobbies, and/or health. What would happen in these areas of your life in your best possible future?
For the next 15 minutes, write continuously about what you imagine this best possible future to be. Use the instructions below to help guide you through this process.
- It may be easy for this exercise to lead you to examine how your current life may not match this best possible future. You may be tempted to think about ways in which accomplishing goals has been difficult for you in the past, or about financial/time/social barriers to being able to make these accomplishments happen. For the purpose of this exercise, however, we encourage you to focus on the future—imagine a brighter future in which you are your best self and your circumstances change just enough to make this best possible life happen.
- This exercise is most useful when it is very specific—if you think about a new job, imagine exactly what you would do, who you would work with, and where it would be. The more specific you are, the more engaged you will be in the exercise and the more you’ll get out of it.
- Be as creative and imaginative as you want, and don’t worry about grammar or spelling.
Why You Should Try It
Sometimes our goals in life can be elusive. But research suggests that building optimism about the future can motivate people to work toward that desired future and thus make it more likely to become a reality.
This exercise asks you to imagine your life going as well as it possibly could, then write about this best possible future. By doing so, research suggests that you’ll not only increase your happiness in the present but pave the way for sustained happiness down the line.
Evidence That It Works
Sheldon, K. M., & Lyubomirsky, S. (2006). How to increase and sustain positive emotion: The effects of expressing gratitude and visualizing best possible selves. Journal of Positive Psychology, 1(2), 73-82.
People who completed the Best Possible Self exercise daily for two weeks showed increases in positive emotions right after the two-week study ended. Those who kept up with the exercise even after the study was over continued to show increases in positive mood one month later.
Why It Works
By thinking about your best possible future self, you can learn about yourself and what you want in life. This way of thinking can help you restructure your priorities in life in order to reach your goals. Additionally, it can help you increase your sense of control over your life by highlighting what you need to do to achieve your dreams.
Sources
Laura A. King, Ph.D., University of Missouri
Jeffrey Huffman, M.D., Harvard Medical School, Massachusetts General Hospital
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Cedric
December 9, 2016Sometimes the universe is a trickster. In the daily Compassion Card from Pema Chodron I received this message "Abandon any hope of fruition" Pema's Commentary read "The key instruction is to stay in the present.Don't get caught up in hopes of what you'll achieve and how good your situation will be someday in the future. What you do right now is what matters."
Jonas Hjalmar Blom
February 14, 2016This was great. It really made me realize how the small steps I take today, tend to take me in a new direction and therefore end up in something very apart from what the small step in the other direction would mean. I recommend this to everyone!
Dorota
November 17, 2015I was very enthusiastic when I started this practice and it worked great for a week. Somehow after a week I found it a little bit repetitive and it was difficult for me to do it with my full passion and engagement. In the last few days I tried to focus on how to deal with particular difficulties from my present as me in the past and the exercise regained a bit of novelty.