Pleasant Events Calendar for Kids

Help children cultivate self-compassion by planning enjoyable activities

Duration: Variable Frequency: Variable Difficulty: Moderate

Time Required

This practice may take about 10 minutes. It can be done anytime and might be especially useful before the start of a busy season.

How to Do It

Compassion is about noticing suffering, including our own, and being moved to alleviate it. Amid their busy schedules, children may not always notice when they are suffering—stressed, overwhelmed, or sad—or they may ignore their own suffering as they march forward to meet the demands of their lives. 

One way to help children develop self-compassion is by encouraging them to make time to explore their interests and engage in activities they enjoy through the use of a Pleasant Events Calendar. You can think of it as a form of self-care for kids.

Here’s how to do it:

  1. Reflect: Encourage your kids to write down a list of activities they enjoy.
  2. Schedule: Help your children identify time slots on the calendar when they can do one or two of the activities.
  3. Track: Place the calendar in a visible location and help your children track the activities by adding a sticker or checkmark when they are completed.

Why You Should Try It

Like adults, children experience stress that can feel overwhelming at times. With so many responsibilities on their plates, children can sometimes have difficulty being intentional about taking care of themselves. Self-compassion provides an avenue to intervene. 

Research suggests that the practice of taking care of and being kind to themselves can help adolescents reduce stress and increase feelings of curiosity and gratitude. And people who grow up into self-compassionate adults have stronger relationships with their partners and are more resilient when confronting stressors like a serious illness.

Why It Works

Self-compassion is about treating ourselves kindly, both in our actions and in the ways we think of ourselves, especially when facing challenges. The Pleasant Events Calendar is one of many ways to encourage your children to be proactive about carving out space for themselves, so they can look forward to positive experiences and do things that make them feel happy. 

In turn, being self-compassionate may allow children to be more open to receiving care from others and giving care to others—which some researchers consider as the three parts of the full human experience of compassion

Evidence That It Works

Edwards, M., Adams, E. M., Waldo, M., Hadfield, O. D., & Biegel, G. M. (2014). Effects of a mindfulness group on Latino adolescent students: Examining levels of perceived stress, mindfulness, self-compassion, and psychological symptomsThe Journal for Specialists in Group Work, 39(2), 145-163.

Middle schoolers participated in an eight-session mindfulness course based on a stress reduction workbook for teens; as part of the course, they created a Pleasant Events Calendar. Middle schoolers had greater self-compassion and mindfulness and felt less stress and depression after they completed the course compared to before.

Biegel, G. (2017). The stress reduction workbook for teens: Mindfulness skills to help you deal with stress. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger. 

This workbook provides mindfulness exercises to support teens with day-to-day challenges in their lives. They practice being aware of difficult emotions and responding to themselves with kindness and care, including by creating a Pleasant Events Calendar. 

Sources

Eve M. Adams., Ph.D., New Mexico State University
Karen Bluth, Ph.D., University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill

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